Parenting in the Here and Now
Realizing the Strengths You Already Have
Being a good parent doesn't mean being perfect, learning complex theories or finding another twelve hours in the day. Parenting in the Here and Now offers a refreshingly different way. Rather than striving for—and failing to reach—a frustrating ideal, parents can start from where they are right now—and enjoy a more harmonious family life almost immediately.
Lea Page shows how to recognize emotions that get in the way, and how to stay calm rather than getting overwhelmed. Her practical parenting philosophy, born from many years of personal experience, observation and reflection, encourages parents to respond to children with action rather than words.
Parenting in the Here and Now is filled with examples of how to manage parental challenges in the moment, from tantrums and whining to lying and disrespect. Parents will appreciate the new confidence and calm authority this book—a true companion—gives them.
“Lea brings her warmth, her wit, and her wisdom and walks with you, heart-to-heart and side-by-side, on the mysterious path of parenting. I wholeheartedly recommend it to all grandparents, aunts, uncles, best friends, and teachers...everyone who loves a child and loves their parents.”— Lynn Jericho, www.imagineself.com
“How wonderful to open a book and feel that you have been invited into the author's home to experience the heart of her family life! Lea warmly and graciously engages her reader in her journey as a parent. With humor and candor, she encourages all parents not to try to be something that they are not, but rather to be the best that they already are. This book is an empowering guide to a truly heart-centered way of parenting.”— Donna Simmons, Christopherus Homeschool Resources
“Lea Page points parents toward a gentler path in her book Parenting in the Here and Now. She urges parents to face their fear and transform it into courage, a skill that allows presence of heart and mind for the most important job on the planet—ushering children into adulthood.”— Lisa Groen Braner, author of The Mother's Book of Well-being
C O N T E N T S:
Introduction: What Is Ho Hum?
PART ONE: HO HUM—THE THREE PRICIPLES
1. Being Calm
2. Being Confident in Your Parental Authority
3. Using Actions and Experiences Rather than Words
4. An Important Example of Ho Hum: When to Offer Choices
PART TWO: ESTABLISHING YOUR DAILY ENVIRONMENT: THE CONTEXT FOR HO HUM
5. Rhythm: Giving Time a Pattern
6. Responsibilities: Doing Chores Together
7. Creating an Environment for Play: Sharing and Generosity
PART THREE: PARENTING CHALLENGES: HO HUM AS A GUIDE FOR DISCIPLINE
8. Helping Children Understand Consequences: Misbehavior and Mistakes
9. Connecting Freedom and Responsibility: Boundaries, Rules, Respect
11. Lies and Trust
12. Sibling Conflict
13. Every Tendency Has a Positive Aspect
14. Ho Hum in Your Family Life