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Approaching Death

A Companion's Guide to the End of Life

Introduction by Bastiaan Baan
Translated by Philip Mees
Renée Zeylmans
Paperback
November 2019
9781782506034
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  • Published
    26th November 2019
  • ISBN 9781782506034
  • Language English
  • Pages 160 pp.
  • Size 6.15" x 9.25"
$22.95

“The idea of the transience
Of all earthly things
Is a source of boundless suffering
And a source of boundless consolation.”
 —Maria von Ebner-Eschenbach (1830–1916)

No two people are alike, and each death is individual and unique. This special book does not promote methodologies or theories but offers insights, information, and contemplations on the end of life. It supports the companions of those on their dying journey, whether volunteer caretakers, medical professionals, clerics, or loved ones.

Renée Zeylmans taught courses on accompanying dying and bereavement for many years. She described the journey toward death as a reciprocal process, asking not only how we can travel with those who are dying and what can we give them, but also what do they give to us in the process. This book is the fruit of a lifetime of her work, and her intention was for it to enrich readers, shed a new light on difficult situations, evoke recognition, console, and offer choices.

In addition to a host of practical information on dying and death—including questions surrounding the physiology of death, fear, fasting, funerals, music, language, and human senses—the book also includes contemplations and meditations from various worldviews and cultures.

“I have noticed a wonderful effect in my work, since reading this book. As a hospice chaplain attending the patients on the ward, I have become calmer and quieter in myself.... I feel so deeply touched by reading this book. Renée Zeylmans has such deep sensitivity and this book opens us to levels of awareness so often sadly missed when someone is crossing the threshold.” Annie Blampied-Radojcin, Hospice Chaplain and OneSpirit Interfaith Minister

“This book is an invaluable, sensitive and gracious volume of writings around death, dying and life after death. It’s like a Lonely Planet guidebook, covering everything you ever wanted to know, and more besides about the subject. It is a work of reference, which I will return to again and again and could also recommend it as a book for study by any person, or group, interested in its vitally important content.” New View

“[An] informative and compassionate book.... full of practical information as well as human stories illustrating various scenarios. The author emphasizes that the dying process is individual and that we may have to unlearn things in the process as well as learn.... A very worthwhile read.” The Paradigm Explorer

“I am captivated by the warmth throughout the contributions of Renée’s book. Flowery prose and gushing poetry do not figure here. Her experience seems well reflected, then sensitively described, so that it can become for the reader a strong prompt to inner work.”  Camphill Correspondence

C O N T E N T S:

Foreword by Bastiaan Baan
Preface

I. BEING A COMPANION TO A DYING PERSON

1. Dying Is Being Born in the Spiritual World
2. Death Is as a Horizon
3. The 'Unknown' Hour of Death
4. Developing Awareness of Our Future Realm
5. When People Close to Us Die
6. The Person Dying as Fellow Traveller (Monique van der Zanden)
7. When Young People Die
8. Experiences in a Children's Hospital (Patricia de Vos)

II. CARE FOR THE DYING

9. The Senses of the One Dying
10. The Language of Images at the Threshold (Bert Voorhoeve)
11. Music for Terminally Ill People (Hilly Bol)
12. Artistic Therapy (Marieke Udo de Haes-Mulder)
13. External Therapy (Pauli van Engelen and Toke Bezuijen)

III. DEATH IS APPROACHING

14. The Physiology of Dying (Paul Schmitz, MD)
15. Euthanasia
16. Fasting until Death
17. The Double: My Shadow
18. The Moment of Dying

IV. AFTER DEATH

19. Coincidence?
20. The Funeral
21. Accompanying the Dying and Christian Ritual (Bastiaan Baan)
22. Mourning by Friends and Relatives
23. Across the Threshold of Death
24. Staying Connected with the Dead

Afterword
Further Reading
Contributors

Renée Zeylmans

Renée Zeylmans, a psychosocial therapist, is active in the field of dying, loss and grief issues, as well as in areas of other life questions, including autobiographical and relationship problems. In 1974, after a just a few years of marriage, her husband died and she was left with three young children. She then decided to dedicate herself to those who experience a heavy grieving process. After working as a counselor for a number of years and after intensive training, Renée started a conversation practice in 1988 in Zeist. She is currently a teacher for training courses and has offered courses for many years, including a course on dying and grief counseling in Zeist.